Playing the Victim

Eric Berne wrote that beautiful little book, ” Games people play,” a must read for anyone interested in understanding psychology. He explained the games that adults play, enacting victim and saviour and lame leg and a lot of characters in the play-act of their humdrum lives.

It will be pertinent to mention that Shakespeare had long ago pre-empted that perspective, albeit poetically, when he declared ” All the world’s a stage..” .If you delve into that one further, you end up reading names like Erasmus, Ovid, Pythagoras, Palingenius, Edwardes et al. Suffice it to say, that acting different parts on the stage of life, has long teased human imagination.

I wonder about certain people who always play victims in their life. Whatever has happened to them, is because “another” has done it to them. They have been ” victimised”, can you not see?

Their parents were so and so.Their siblings were such and such.Their lovers/spouses were oh-so and such and so and such..Their kids were what to say-what to say-what to say.Their whole life is misery-misery-misery

They never take any responsibility for their actions. At the age of ten, twenty, thirty…ninety- they play the same role of victim-hood.Rather happily too.They revel in being miserable- almost begging Fates to give them more misery. Graceful living is for the fools, you see?

You don’t? Ha! They will explain to you.The explanations will have  a marked pattern. The stories will elevate themselves into long suffering angels who are beyond any blame. They loved and toiled and protected and cared and Thud! They were let down by wicked, wicked women and men. If you ask them for dates and details, they will evade it dexterously. They can do anything but face the truth of their own roles in their downfall , with their delusions of innocence and adroit mental games.

If you think of characters in classic plays who walked to  a similiar tune with heart rending dramatic intensity, may be you can think of Willy Loman in Miller’s “Death of a Salesman”, Blanche Dubois in Tennesse Williams’ ” A Streetcar called Desire”, Oswald Alving in Ibsen’s “Ghosts”…a lot of them.

After all, the greatest of make believe is based on the greatest of truths- that of human frailty.

The day humanity can face the truth of its own weakness, it will transcend into another golden age.What did the Gurus call it? Satya Yuga.

Of the eleven principles to attain it, comes the instruction, not to be slave to your lower nature.

Playing the Slave, hmmmm..another title of Psychological Study  by another genius someday.


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