When human behaviour confuses me, I turn to Oscar Wilde for answers. The one who had nothing to declare but his genius!
Why the hell do people play mind games? Why cannot someone mean what they say and stick to what they commit in the first place? Is being straightforward a sin of the gauche and the damned? Is the world of ‘beautiful people’ full of sophisticated narcissists?
“Be yourself, everyone else is already taken,” he wryly tells me!
So percipient of Wilde to have noted that “… to love oneself is the beginning of a life long romance!”
And there it was, an answer to my query on being straightforward.
“..I usually say what I really think. A great mistake nowadays. It makes one so liable to be misunderstood.”
No one can teach you life like a Wilde classic. Watch ‘An ideal husband’ for more home truths.
Why is it that some of us live in a make believe world of our own self importance? As if the rest of the world does not exist or has no rights of its own?
How irritating to observe the Billy Bunters of this world, walking around, all puffed up with their assumed greatness and superiority! The grounds of Grey Friars of their preening smugness can consist of any profession or vocation- the similarity is striking in its singularity: they can make normal people break out in rashes with their falsehood.
Since I have a strong hatred towards hypocrites of any guise, and my detestation can grow by leaps and bounds in their near proximity, I usually tend to keep off their luxuriant turfs , swathed with the unbridled green of their own petty envy. (Whew! That does sound very profound!:)
Sighing, I turn to Wilde again, remembering De Profundis, and his own deep anguish.
“When you are not on your pedestal, you are not interesting…” Apparently that was what Bosie, his former friend and nemesis, callously uttered during his illness.
I reflect on the sophisticates who will drop one like a horrendous fashion error, if one ever falters in social standing.
“Vulgarity is the conduct of other people and falsehoods are the truths of others.”